3 Ways to Ensure Your Child Throws Tantrums ALL OF THE TIME

There are several ways to make sure your child throws fits all of the time, but these ways are the top 3 that I see it ALL the time!

1. Give them what they want.

If you would like for your child to continue to scream every time they don't get their way, then just give them what they want when they start to throw a fit for it. Guys this will work every time. Will giving your child what they want make them stop crying in the moment? Of course! But what does that teach them in the long run? It teaches them that next time they want something to just scream and throw themselves on the ground and they will get what they want.

Honestly this causes such a downward spiral of constant throwing of fits and an extremely unstable environment for your child. It really gives the child all of the control in the house. This is not something they will grow out of. Of course your child won't be 16 years old throwing themselves on the ground, but they will get their way somehow. It may be through manipulating you to the point where you didn't even realize you just gave them exactly what they wanted, or arguing until you give in, or sneaking around your back because they don't take you seriously; but rest assured, they will get what they want. Bottom line they will know that you will give in eventually and they will figure out how to make that happen whether they are 2 years old or 15 years old.

Instead, use tantrums as an opportunity to teach your child the right way to communicate. Help them understand that you know they are upset, but throwing themselves on the ground and screaming is not the right way to get what they want, or the right way to communicate what they do want. Teach them how to use their words and have them repeat after you what they need to say instead of throwing a fit.

2. Ignore them

Another sure fire way to make sure your child continues to throw fits is to just ignore them. What if you were extremely upset about something you felt was very serious in your life, and you were venting to your husband and being emotional about it. What if he just walked out of the room and wouldn't look at you or acknowledge you? Would this help you calm down? No, of course not! It would probably upset you even more.

Yes I understand the whole concept of not giving negative behavior attention, but ignoring tantrums is literally teaching them nothing, and has proven to be ineffective and only perpetuates the behavior. Instead, stop get down on their level and tell them this is not the way to get what they want. When they are ready to talk you are here to listen.

3. Loose your cool

To make matters worse when your children loose it, go ahead and just yell back at them and loose your temper. I know it's so hard to keep your whits about you when your child throws down for the 10th time that day, but you yelling back at them will NEVER, ever make it better. It will ALWAYS make it worse! It will only teach your child that this is a normal way to act and communicate.

The very best thing you can do for your children is not give them the reigns of your emotions. Don't ever discipline out of emotion, discipline out of a heart of unconditional love for your child. The best way to teach your kids effective communication is by example, so take a deep breathe and calm yourself down before you speak to them. Talk to them in a calm voice that shows them the correct way to communicate.

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